I want to talk about this before you watch it. Just because. And, for the record, since some don't know... I am a woman. Yes, I know a lot of people think I'm a dude if they haven't heard my voice (and maybe even if you have, I don't know), but I'm a woman. It's slightly irrelevant, but this is a woman's perspective on this.
This video was actually a recommended video for me on YouTube. YouTube likes to send me public freak out and road rage videos for some reason, and there was this. I clicked on it thinking it was going to be something different. And my jaw was on the floor.
All I could think was imagine the outcry if someone had made a compilation of men treating women like this.
Arguments are arguments, we all have them with our partners. They happen. But there's a line you don't cross. And some of the ladies in this video crossed it (not all of them. Not all of these videos are abusive). Pay special attention to the second video. The first wasn't great either, but the second one was the one that got my hackles up. She was angry that her boyfriend (I assume not husband) liked some girl's photo on Instagram. What followed was text book domestic violence.
Yes, men can be victims, too, and often are. More than people like to admit. Women can be abusers, and they are more often than people want to admit!
So I just want to take a moment here, because our country focuses so hard on violence against women. Yes, violence against women is an important issue. But so is violence against men, and we don't seem to discuss this as much.
Men. If you are dating or married to a woman like this, you need to admit to yourself that it is abuse. There's no shame in it. Get the cops involved. Let trusted friends and relatives know what is going on. Recording is fine, but don't post to YouTube like it's funny. Give copies to trusted friends or relatives to save as evidence, so she can't delete it. Call the cops every single time it happens, start a paper trail for the future. Keep a detailed log on paper of the abuse, including dates and times with as much info as you can give. It can be used in court. And work on getting out. I know it isn't always easy to get out. People always tell victims to leave, but I know that isn't always as easy as people make it sound. But you have to try.
Ladies, just because you are a woman doesn't make this OK. You need to look at how you are treating your partner. If you're being abusive, get help. If you love someone you don't treat them like this. And that goes for both men and women. It goes for straight couples and gay couples, too. It's abuse and it isn't OK. If you love someone, treat them better.
OK, I'm off my soapbox. I just wanted to say something because we as a nation don't address women abusers and male victims of domestic violence as often as we should. Take it seriously.
He was sure quick to say something divisive when the fake story broke, but he has yet to retract or apologize. He just claims it was a joke. Of course. And, of course, he talks about the "un-American policies" the hat represents without any comment about the set up on these high school kids in an attempt to fake a hate crime and ruin their lives. "Orange. Man. Bad."
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